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Liberating Decisions


Everyday in our life, we are all demanded to make decisions. Simple decisions such what to eat or what to wear might not be a big deal. As we grow older, we met a lot of intersections. Each of them brought to a whole different kind of life.

I just make my one big decision two days ago. And here's my story.


Five years ago I officially broke up with my boyfriend. That was a pretty serious relationship I've ever had, because we were about to get married. Since we were decided to stay with each other forever, we took our first big decision: buy a motorbike together. We were agreed that the motorbike is under his name, but I'm the one who pay for it, so basically it's mine. Two years after we broke up, I decided to sell that motorbike. Because I'm weak for paper work. I hate doing the paper work especially if it requires a contact with the ex. 

Three years gone by, I live my life very peacefully without any ride parking at my garage. I enjoy taking online transport everyday, delivery food and packages, even I rely on technologies to deliver me fresh veggies and meats. I have no problem about that until lately.

Even when I say 'I have no problem about it', there's still a tiny little bump in my heart because sure there's limitation when you have no vehicle in your house. For three years I'm being very creative. I manage my needs very carefully so that I can have more than three tasks to tick when I go to the store or mall. 

Now that my family is here, my sister probably will stay longer before school start to be normal again. I realised that this kind of lifestyle only work when I live alone. So I made a big purchase online; I bought a motorbike. This decision is enough for me, I need to stare at the screen for ten minutes before I input the OTP code. 

They sent me the motorbike a day after, and when I see it, I realised how liberating it is to finally have that one thing you didn't have but you need and yet you keep convincing yourself to not needing it.


Life is a result of our decision. A series of one lead to another kind of result. We may hold back ourselves for not having what we need, because we think we can live without it. We are scared to make that decision because we're afraid to change our life. We know that if we take that decision, life will never get the same. Then we trap into the same problem every single day. 

Making a big decision is difficult, but it also liberating. We're not getting any younger as the day passed. We need to start living. Release what holding us back, what getting in the way between us and that life changing decision. I know it's scary. But we need to take it in order to grow.


Bogor, 18 July 2021

I end F.R.I.E.N.D.S in July, 4 years ago and now I find Modern Family. 


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