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Let’s Be Great!

Do you have any idea how long is ‘the rest of my life’ would be? Like when you were so crazy in love and you wanna be with that guy and spend your life with him.. do you actually have any idea how long that gonna be?

Let me put some thought for you, ladies. (All single ladies out there who are still whining about getting no relationship or stuck in a relationship that going nowhere):

This is the only time for you to learn about you.

I’m saying this because we’re women. And women don’t do things only for her self. After this, you’ll spent your entire life taking care of other people. That’s what we’re designed. First, it’ll be your man. Then it’ll be your kid. First born, second born, on and on. And then you’ll get older and your parents get older, so you have to take care of them too.

In those moments, you’ll whine of getting crazy with housework, crave for some alone-time and started to post in social media how much you miss your teenage days.

I know this because that’s what I see and what I heard from everyone who talk to me about it.

It’s not wrong, it’s okay for them to share or overshare, or whatever. It’s okay to let people know that they’re in trouble. All that I can say for them is.. to enjoy the moment, and be thankful that they have children. Some people are struggling and spend millions of money to have one, and some others struggle to find their own match. Like me.

But! Yeah there’s a but. But there are still many chances for you, girls! For you who have not being taken yet. For you who still wondering where in the world does your significant other be.

You can have this time all for you., to figure out who you wanna be when he arrives. To find out what kind of mother you’ll be. To learn what are the things that make you happy, because sometimes even you can surprise yourself. Things that you never tried, things that you barely touch, maybe is the things that set you free. But please don’t say weed.

Try them! Go out and make friends! Travel the world! You can have all the time in the world right now and only now. Don’t wait until you met him just to find out who you are, for maybe it’ll too late. Because once you guys met, you’ll have to take care of his bagage, his story, his weight of the world. You’ll take care of him. Even if he says that he doesn’t need you to take care of him, that he open up the door for you, sweep you off your feet, believe me.. in two or three years, it’ll all be gone. Unless you’re not looking for a long time relationship.

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What I’m trying to say here is.. don’t be sad. Girls can’t be sad. Well okay to be sad once or twice, but don’t be because of boys.

Let me give you some other tips; whenever you are worried of not getting married, or whenever you start to feel sad because you’re lonely.. try to think on what you’re gonna do if he’s knocking on your door right now. Prepare for those times!

The times when you wake up with him by your side and his busy schedule., and you have to make breakfast and provide his clothes. What are you gonna cook? Have you learn to cook?

Then, what about the babies? If you have a baby now, will you still be working like now? And if you do, who’s gonna taken care of the baby? Are you sure you’ll leave the baby with a nanny? Don’t you ever heard about the Nanny today? And what about the harm of absent parent to the kids? Don’t you want your kids to be great? To be a leader? How can they do that without you? Alright so now you decide to be not working and be a stay at home mom. Who’s gonna pay your bill? Are you sure your husband’s ready to sign for that? And what about your expensive skincare? Your husband will pay for that too? What if he can’t? What if.. God forbid.. your husband’s salary just enough to keep the food on the table and the needs of the babies? You do believe that woman need to be able to make money, right?

Alright so the answer to all that is that you have to be a creative woman. One that can make money without sticking her finger on an fingerprint machine every morning. One that can make millions by staying right beside the kids. Seriously girls, kids today.. they are lonelier than we ever be and all they need is just their mother. Trust me. I learn about this. A lot.

Now I’m getting to my point. My point is.. use this alone time of yours to sharpen your creativity as sharp as it could. Be creative. Be out of the world. Think of the unthinkable. Reach as many information as you could reach. See the other side of the world in case you’ll need it one day. Everything that happen during your alone time, every second that you spent, dont let it go to waste. Think. And think. You have to be able to make money without exposing your skin under the Sun. With what? With your brain!

So let’s get up! Wipe them tears out! And staart.., thinking!

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Bogor, Saturday 6 July
Says the woman who watch Netflix in her bed since dawn until dusk

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