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Minimal Parent

Oh yeah someone told me that its easy for me to pursue minimalism while I'm single. Who am I to judge, she's right. Even people said that too to Josh The Minimalists.

Even when I'm single, I too craving for kids. Five four six, you name it. I really wanna have kids that I no longer care about a love story and the dream wedding. I just wanna have kids.

Minimalism does sound modern, but it doesn't mean the minimalist doesn't wanna have kids or getting married and double up the member of the house.

Is it possible for you to stay minimal while having five kids?

Yeah!

Look.. I've been watching The Stauffer family for months and I adore their family. Five kids in a luxury house, pretty mom, handsome pop, whoa..

And that makes me thinking.. Could they be any more minimal? Five kids, dude!

The answer is always yes. I read somewhere about being a minimal parent for three, and the struggle is lighter than any other parents with one kid.

Why?

Because they have more space with their children. I know baby needs more cloths than their parents, they changes a lot, they poop and vomit on their napkins, and the mother should take three or four cloths everytime they went out for a half day.

Don't worry, mom. This still count as minimal tho.

And what about the mess?

Clutter source of a baby is toys! Toys here toys there, toys everywhere. You have a room full of toys, and you take the kids to the store and they'll still cry for a new toys.

How to handle this?

Well, who am I to say, I don't have kids.

But all I know, from where I learn parenting (books, class, o yea I join the class of parenting and children psychology back in college), kids are the best imitator. They see, they observe, and they duplicate your behavior. So before blaming your kids for being too whiny and demanding, try to look at the mirror first.

Kids will copy their parents behavior on being minimalist. On being so picky and separating which one is the need, and which one is the want. When you're thinking wether to buy a stuff or not, try to mumble the words clear enough so the kids knows that you're in doubt and trying to decide something.

They notice you, mom. This is why I cry every night of longing for children. Because they are the most amazing creature that will look at us like we're the best thing in their world (or at least for the first few years before they knew someone better). Lol.

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Minimalism is a matter of thinking. This is the new perspective of life, mess free, clutter free, and worry free. This is the way of living that could make you enjoy the minutes, seconds, and the moment.

Live with no excess in stuff, so you have time to excessively loving your partner.

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